Month: May 2024

Forgiveness is an Ongoing Journey of Freedom

I can grow for no one except myself. The first Principle of Mind Your Own Becoming – “Free others to be where they are, not where you want them to be.” Sometimes that is an extremely painful lesson when we so want full healing for those we love. The fourth Principle of MYOB: Remember – Forgiveness Is an Ongoing Journey of Freedom for You.

From my booklet – “Mind Your Own Becoming – Love Wins.”

“In my forties, one of my nieces shared a secret held for years. My brother-in-law had violated one of my nieces from the time she was a young child into her teens, attempted to rape another and threatened another with death if she ever told. I confronted that with all the family, knowing I could not be silent. My sister had one teenage son from that marriage, and I included him in exposing that painful secret. My sister also revealed my birth father had violated her and she kept her relationship with him through his life. I sought to offer support and ongoing counsel for everyone. Nothing turned out as I had prayed. Two factors were heartbreaking to me, my sister knew of the violation and did nothing. She remained with her husband. This shattered family as I had known it.”

My sister’s message that she lived from – you’ll get through it – be silent. The poison in that message is that we don’t just go through it unscathed. We live with that message and base our decisions out of fear and not feeling heard or loved. There’s shame, embarrassment, and anger that “seethes” through the years. It results in acute dysfunction, co-dependence, addictions, and disease and that continues in the next generation.

Acceptance and Forgiveness

My confrontation did not create a magic wand where there was sudden enlightenment and transformation; however, it broke the seal of silence and planted the seed for future generations.

It was also a journey to accept that my sister chose to continue the marriage with my brother-in-law, and it took years for me to find peace with that decision. However, there is a deeper spiritual principle in all our evolvement, and that is to accept someone where they are and not where you would have them be. That acceptance, however, does not mean that I have ever questioned my actions of breaking the silence. There was an immense and painful price involved. I came to realize that abuse shattered my family before I broke the silence. I know also there was a moment of revelation that finally someone was listening.

This has required me to understand the principle of forgiveness on deeper levels and honor the words written earlier, abuse begets abuse. I know my brother-in-law suffered great abuse as a child and never healed those deep wounds. I must have as deep a compassion for his soul journey as I do for every family member. Silence can seal us into victimhood or breaking it can send us on the path of a life lived not out of fear but planting the seeds of healing for ourselves and future generations.

There’s more to come on this subject of Acceptance and Forgiveness – above all for myself. We are living out of fear or love – (Course in Miracles) and Love Wins!

Monthly Theme and Weekly Speakers.

Every month, we take the Key Principles of MYOB and put them into practice in our lives. Looking at the deeper call before us — What are we each to “Be” to bring about societal change through our soul evolution in ways that establish justice, love, and care for all – without exception. Please join us weekly on Thursdays at 7 p.m. EDT for our virtual program.

The Seeds of Transcendent Love

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There is nothing more precious than the birth of a child. That original innocence is sacred to behold. No one is “born into sin.” We are here for good purpose for the blessing of all humanity through how we have lived together. The seeds of Transcendent Love are within every new birth.

Heaven and Hell

The word heaven is from the Greek word – Ouranos – and references expansion. It references looking to the sky. Open minds enable us to see things from a higher view – “look to the sky.”

One of the root words of Hell – “Helan” – refers to covering up – and being unable to see light or Truth. We’ve done an impressive job of hell on earth with our beliefs in separation through race, cultures, governments, and religions that keep us apart and warring. What a revelation if we did realize we are all One from the same star stuff. How might that expand our views? We can come to treasure diversity as Mother Nature reveals to us the wonder of it.

We have seen evidence of heaven on earth through what we can achieve as we honor the inherent gifts of art, writing, creativity, and the multi-talents that dwell within us. The Mystics have shared what we can achieve in realizing compassion, love, and regard for one another.

Humanity (to this point) has loved to segregate, disenfranchise, label, and condemn those who aren’t “normal” as to how various views of how God created us to be. I don’t believe God created me to be “normal.”

A Personal Reflection of God

My belief of God: The originating Principle of Life. The galaxies evidence that it contains energy; intelligence, is life producing and ongoing creativity. It is also clear that our thoughts have power. They are a part of that creative impulse. The energy around thoughts of love and hate are tangible and impact all life. We do create heaven or hell on earth and understanding that Truth we can realize – only all of us together can see a new expanding vision of our world where we do treasure every sacred newborn for good purpose and planting seeds for Transcendent Love for all of us.

I choose to keep expanding my vision of the wonder of life and the potential within all to awaken to the joy of their own being. What a world we can create for future generations to awaken to. The only thing love is meant to be about is compassion, enlightenment, and transformation as we are all free to explore our uniqueness and the gift, we are here to bring to one another. The seeds of Transcendent Love exist in every new birth – and how we nurture that new being is a sacred charge as parents and as a society.

Monthly Theme and Weekly Speakers.

Every month, we take the Key Principles of MYOB and put them into practice in our lives. Looking at the deeper call before us — What are we each to “Be” to bring about societal change through our soul evolution in ways that establish justice, love, and care for all – without exception. Please join us weekly on Thursdays at 7 p.m. EDT for our virtual program.

Moments

Transcendental Moments create the Remembrance within us that we are One. There is something universal that when felt and sensed impacts our lives in ways that move us to a higher awareness and value of ourselves and all around us. I share a writing of a reflection on “Moments” that I realize held within them, the opportunity of Transcendence. I honor all who have touched me with those sacred “Moments” that are in my heart and soul.

“Moments”

There are those Moments when I know I have experienced LOVE — the LOVE that will sustain me and carry me through a dark night, and the LOVE that magnifies my times of JOY.

It is the LOVE I feel as the rays of the sun burst through the clouds. It is LOVE that has come from brief exchanges, but when someone has gone out of their way to come through for me.

It is a friend’s gift of simply listening, and it is also LOVE that has enabled that friend to say what I most needed to hear, perhaps when I least wanted to hear it. It is the LOVE that I reflect upon over the years, and I realize how integral a part of my life someone has become, and how he or she has contributed to my most beautiful and profound memories.

There are those Moments when I realize this LOVE knows no time or absence and though life’s realities or events may have separated us, this person is as near as the beat of my heart, and when I bring them to mind, there is warmth and joy. It is in those Moments I acknowledge how LOVE sustains me be it family, friends, or simply a “Moment” with someone I may not meet again.

There are the Moments when I meet someone for the “first time” and deep within I know there is a reunion of a friendship of lifetimes ago. Through these “Moments” of Remembrance, I create a collage of LOVE of people, places, and events. I realize what a blessing it is to have lived the life I have, for through it I have deepened my understanding and compassion for myself and others. With grief and loss, joy, and triumph, I know LOVE is the origin of all and LOVE is my destination. However brief, however long, everyone and everything is a part of my heart’s collage,

Please take time to remember those “Moments” that can, in Truth, lift us to “Transcendence” – valuing this gift of Life.

Monthly Theme and Weekly Speakers.

Every month, we take the Key Principles of MYOB and put them into practice in our lives. Looking at the deeper call before us — What are we each to “Be” to bring about societal change through our soul evolution in ways that establish justice, love, and care for all – without exception. Please join us weekly on Thursdays at 7 p.m. EDT for our virtual program.

The Core of Silent Agreements

One by one we can build healing bridges, from heart to heart, so that future generations stand for enlightenment, and we no longer validate and support silence that smothers the human spirit.

Here is my definition of Silent Agreements.

“Silent Agreements are anything that have deeply wounded and blocked the true expression of the human soul and that perpetuate abuse and untruths generationally.

Every culture, nation, race, religion, family, and individual have accountability for what we carry forward. Abuse begets abuse until someone says “enough.”

The Seeds of All Disease

Silent agreements are anything but silent in their impact upon our body, and emotions. They block our capacity for intimacy and healthy relationships. They envelope us in the emotional quicksand of doubt, judgment, and fear.

Disease may appear to be about the physical., however, let the trauma of pain, abuse, and wounds remain long enough they become the seeds of all disease. “Silent Agreements” release poison and toxin into the human psyche.

There are tools in which to “build the healing bridges” where we are no longer bound by our fears. We can learn to step out of the ignorance we have condoned. Silence and time do not heal wounds … it seals them, until we are willing to face them.

Silence Maintains the Walking Wounded

We are only the walking wounded in our silence. Confronting, and dealing with our past enables us to be the Victor of the journey, not the victim. Being a victim is a moment … it’s not meant to be a lifetime practice. Being the Victor is our soul’s intent. Our heroes and heroines are the ones who have shown us the way to rise and be the Victorious Spirit no matter what they have had to move through. They have not been silent.

The pattern of silence in abuse becomes the “norm” and accepted way of living with it, and the abuse and silence continue. As children we are innocent of our feelings and thoughts. Our early beliefs, religious exposure, societies, and cultures can bring us into the acceptance of conformity and pre-defined roles. We are not to question the validity of our true feelings and expression.

I Am Born into Pre-Packed Roles

The human soul is not “pre-packaged” and pre-defined. We are artists … here to explore, discover, create, and realize we are all connected. We have evolved (somewhat) from our primal roots of mere survival. In the process we have sought to define our reason for being.

The human soul is unique and complex. Every newborn is a fresh start on humanity, on purpose, and compassion. Our early years and the impact of the collective world consciousness create how we see ourselves.

My generation believed in Silence regarding abuse. Though we had the illusion of all humanity existing as family, the reality was there are always “others” those with great privilege – those not, those that are “saved” in the right faith, and those doomed to hell. Abuse and violence are the “norm” for humanity – accept it!

We are now in a world that is breaking the molds of Silence and roles that are pre-defined. There are no “others” just all of us seeking what it is to have the right to authentically “Be.” Rooted in that Being – Love and Compassion for all without exception. Violence and abuse do not have to be the world we inherit. That’s a quantum leap of redefining our humanity and not warring with one another. Stand for enlightenment and the right to discover – we are all ONE and we all matter.

Monthly Theme and Weekly Speakers.

Every month, we take the Key Principles of MYOB and put them into practice in our lives. Looking at the deeper call before us — What are we each to “Be” to bring about societal change through our soul evolution in ways that establish justice, love, and care for all – without exception. Please join us weekly on Thursdays at 7 p.m. EDT for our virtual program.